Dating and frequency of communication
Whether a relationship is just beginning or well-established, having clear rules or norms for how texting will occur may prevent some of the frustrations that technology can introduce into the mix. You have explained most, and the one that rang the most true was that in some ways it was a substitute to actually seeing them.
Evidence suggests that satisfaction with how people use their phones within the relationship and relationship satisfaction itself are related (Miller-Ott, Kelly, & Duran, 2012). Conversing with someone in person; seeing their expressions, their gestures, hearing the tone of their voice, makes a world of difference.
In the good old days, dating was defined by a series of face-to-face encounters.
People met, they spent time in each other’s company, they got to know each other's friends and family, and they evaluated the quality of their connection and compatibility .
Technology that once supplemented relationship development is now, it seems, taking on a larger role in relationship formation and maintenance.
What is this role, and how healthy is a reliance on technology for the creation and sustainment of romantic relationships?
Texting and Relationship Well-being In the end, is it healthy to text?
It can be a safe way to figure out if someone is interested.Applying Walther’s (1996) hyperpersonal model to text messaging reveals three key advantages: Some people find it complicated to manage the simultaneous demands of an in-person conversation (saying hello while deciding whether to hug, kiss or just shake hands; maintaining a smile and eye contact; not spilling one’s drink) and understandably prefer to text.Texting does help those who are nervous, or who have shakier interpersonal skills, avoid potentially stressful encounters.These relations are complex, as men who text to express affection tend to have partners who feel more attached to them. Using technology to connect in romantic relationships: Effects on attachment, relationship satisfaction, and stability in emerging adults. It's quick and easy, and I can still do other things while I wait for confirmation.For both men and women, the more they use texting to hurt a partner (inciting jealousy, expressing anger, etc.) the less attached their romantic partner. However, I have seen texting become a hindrance in my romantic affairs in several ways.